It's Not About You

Men can be very selfish. We are always thinking about ourselves, who we are, where we are in the business world, what we have achieved, where we want to be one day. That’s typical of men, and a fewer ladies too. Since my messages are directed at men, let’s look at ourselves before we look at others, before we start pointing fingers. Remember this though. Each time you point at someone else, there are four fingers pointing back at you. It has always been about me, my, and I. Actually, it should not always be about us. Yes, there are those times when it is about us as individuals, but we should think about those around us as well.

I started studying about leadership and coaching, especially Christian-based coaching and leadership through an organization I was involved with. I purchased a book from the USA and attended the first classes where the international tutor was presenting here in South Africa. I’m still busy with it but at my own pace. Recently while reading the Bible, which I do every night [at least one to three chapters], I started reading the book of Philippians, and I came upon this verse, and it had me thinking once again. Philippians 2:3 is as follows – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” This hit me between the eyes!

As I read it I saw my flaw, who I truly was and maybe how others saw me too. I didn’t want to be seen as such a person. I wanted to be seen as God saw me, or so I thought. I realized that others around me needed attention and needed to be encouraged, or needed something more than I needed. Today I try and lift up others up, praising them for who they are, coaching them when necessary, and being that leader in my community that can make a difference in others. Maybe you are there, but if not, why not try being that man that humbles himself and places others before his own desires and needs. This changed who I was and made me a better man. Be blessed.